7 Things Virgins Should Know Before Having Sex After Marriage

For female virgins, there are a lot of myths around sexual activity, one being that your first time having sex will hurt.

The first time you have vaginal sex, it may hurt, or feel good, or both. There might be pain and bleeding the first time a penis or fingers go into your vagina, but it doesn’t happen to everybody.

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It is mostly easier and straightforward for men.

Here are seven things to expect when having sex for the first time for a lady;

1. The first time doesn’t have to hurt or be filled with blood

Most women are brought up to think that the first time hurts, even though it might a little and yes, they might be some blood, it isn’t usually extremely painful or filled with blood, if that happens it means the vagina was torn, and it isn’t supposed to be. This is because the vagina expands and it can take a normal size penis effortlessly.

2. Have open conversations about sex

Depending on his or her upbringing, sex might have been shrouded in mystery and shame. You must make him or her comfortable with the idea of having sex. They must see it as totally normal now you are married. You can do this through educational videos and books, sexting, sexual video calls, making out and generally talking about sex to remove any feeling of guilt and shame associated with it.

3. Only do it when he or she is comfortable

Do not try to cajole them when they are not ready or talk down on their fears about sex. Instead, allow them to gather as much information about the experience as possible and even be looking forward to it. For a woman, her vagina will never open up when the owner is afraid or unsure. Consent is important and when someone isn’t enjoying sex, then it feels coerced.

4. Both of you need to view sex as a give and take

There are sometimes during sex when your partner likes a style or position but you don’t – a good partnership is taking turns to pleasure each other by doing what the other person likes. What we are saying is switch things up in the bedroom, try different styles and not just what you want or are used to.

5. Use lubricant

Not spit, Vaseline or water but actual store-bought lubricant and use it generously. Lubrication makes the process easier for virgins.

6. Try it a couple of times

It’s okay if the penis doesn’t go in the first time, it’s okay to try over a couple of times until she gets comfortable.

7. Lean heavily on the foreplay

Penetration is usually not the best part of sex for most women or even the only part of sex. By leaning heavily on the kissing, touching and petting, she becomes aroused enough to engage in penetrative sex.

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