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Aisha Yesufu Stirs Uproar With Marriage Advice

Asked To Maintain Her Lane As An Activist

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December 17, 2020

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By Emmanuel Adigwe

Popular activist, Aisha Yesufu, has stirred the hornets’ nest after she enjoined couples to keep their mothers away from their marriages.

Yesufu had tweeted: “Your mother is the first person you should keep out of your marriage once you are married.”

Her statement was brought up for discussion in the popular TVC programme, ‘Your View’ on Thursday. Remarkably, one of the presenters of the show, Akashat Zibiri agreed with the view of the activist.

Akashat said: “Keep your mother out of your marriage, not out of your life. Your wife cannot take over the role of your mother and vice versa, keep each of them in their place.”

However, another presenter, Mariam Longe, disagreed with Akashat as she stated that mothers shouldn’t be shut out in the marriage.

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Mariam said: “Except you didn’t have a good relationship with your mother before marriage. I don’t see the rationality behind just shutting your mother out immediately after marriage. You need to give room for good counsel.”

This development stirred reactions on social media as many took to the micro-blogging platform to express their views as some stated that an activist like Aisha Yesufu cant be a good marriage counselor while some stated that she is right with her assertion since mothers brings a lot of pressure if allowed to contribute in marital issues.

GWG presents some views below:

She never said "keep her out of your life" rather "keep her out of your marriage. They're two different things
— Leke Austin (@austin_leke) December 17, 2020

The percentage of divorced/separated parents is huge. Take for instance, a parent with just entry level marital experience (0 – 5yrs) trying influence their child/wards home. The question is: what was their marriage like within that time frame to want to influence their child's?
— Basmallah Akomolafe (@careercornerng) December 17, 2020

Lool ! M not married yet but this looks true.. Majorly, women are toxic !! So just avoid Toxicity.. Mom will wantu boss her son, wife will wantu boss her marriage..
The husband will def av selection headache !! #YourViewTVC
— Olufela ? (@FelaDey4you) December 17, 2020

In my experience, it's more often the husband's mother trying to run the household by proxy. A wise man will draw the line. At the end of the day, it depends on your character and permeability. If you have poor boundaries, rubbish will seep in.
— Kuzco (@Kuzcobi) December 17, 2020

let the parents stay on their own and enjoy their own life, consult them only when their is trouble, build and grow ur home the way u will like it to be. not necessary to follow ur parent ways of life, let them stay out clear of ur marriage
— SUBDIN SOLUTION (@SolutionSubdin) December 17, 2020

You're all saying the same thing, husbands and wives should know at what point mothers come in. As an adult you should know when to take certain issues to your mom or your spouses mom. Mothers have their home to take care of so do you when you get married.
— Princesspaula (@princess42008) December 17, 2020

keep your mother out of your marriage doesn't mean you should "dismother" her. the Bible clearly states that a man should his parent and cleave to his wife. Christ should be the only third party in your marriage. Seeking advice is okay but when it comes to decision making, it is
— B_k (@OwojaiyeBukayo) December 17, 2020

Some mothers are bias in the way they approach issues in their son/daughter's marriage. Such isn't healthy & toxic, we know she's a mother but her role in marriage should have some barrier. so I support the activist to some extent
— TEMMYTOPPE ART (@AjileSamuel) December 17, 2020

Good morning, am Ekundayo from Amukoko. The role of any of the mothers in marriage is typically dangerous sometimes, but before eliminating mother's role in marriage, listen to what they first; if negative advice takes place, take their role away, else, keep them.
— Sekdam (@Sekdam3) December 17, 2020

I like Lima point…but that’s too general…it’s like saying all women are the same, all boys are the same…it’s like saying Lima and Morayo are the same…
— Sambanks (@Sambank41244305) December 17, 2020

Ma, sister Morayo and Barrister
You are saying the same thing
Assuming you don't have a mother, you will live your life, let mother's continue to play their mothely role not to command but to advice
— Olaboye omololu (@Ormor01) December 17, 2020

I think this should be applied with caveat. Some misguided individuals may over stretch. Africans, after all, are already in the habit of calling there mothers "witch" just because pastor says so.
— Butchi (@ButchiRossy) December 17, 2020

I believe that marriages should be built around the couples, that's based on what the agree on and what works for them. Also, depending on the kind of mother ooo I feel mothers can be consulted when need be and final decision taken by the couple.
— Iyanu Steven (@fist_even) December 17, 2020

I agree totally with Niima. My mother came for omugwo at my house. Let's just say I had to call my brother to call his mother back home before things will scatter. I must say she's a wonderful mother. But I've learnt that being a mother is different from being a mother in-law
— Queen R (@RoselineEgwu1) December 17, 2020

Been an activist is different from being a relationship advise, how can you keep your mum out of your marriage,if not for mother inlaw wisdom some home's by now won't be together.
— Maurice Udedike (@dunuotubelu) December 17, 2020

That’s the greatest mistake you will be making for your entire life #yourviewtvc
— Danny ?? (@Daniel_Ehime) December 17, 2020

?correct ,both mother and wife have their place do not let any take the space of another.
— merrymary (@merryonyi) December 17, 2020

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